Dating expat Ashbourne Ireland

I would love to be near my family and feel so lonely. From the start, I loved living and working here. In my mother died back home, so that was the last tie to my home town. I never married, despite a few serious dalliances along the way.

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When I retired from teaching just over two years ago, I decided to stay here in the Channel Islands. Retirement from a demanding job running a department in a large private school was a relief. At last I had the time and money to enjoy life and travel. New horizons opened for me and I am fortunate to have a very dear friend who often travels with me. She is also a retired teacher who lost her husband four years ago, and we get on like a house on fire, going to the gym regularly and baking together. But she has her grandchildren who visit Jersey regularly, three of them, all under the age of four.

I am not very good with small children and when they visit, she knows to give me my space. Many of my other friends are involved with families, and some of them are still working. My dear friend had her grandchildren for two weeks recently, and it was during that time I realised how lonely life could be.

Once I had been to the gym, had a coffee, done a little bit of shopping, well, it was home to a silent apartment and a silent phone. It was not easy this time, and gave me food for thought. I also lost my dear Aunt Belle just over a year ago. She lived in the UK and I visited her every six weeks. Now there is no one to visit, just her grave. So how will I deal with this loneliness that crept up on me without warning? I will make the best of a bad job, as they say. Continue travelling a bit, sometimes on my own, sometimes with my friend, making sure I stay healthy and fit, and go out every day, regardless of the weather.

Rita Holmes: 'Nothing makes you feel lonely more than having to explain a joke to new friends. The loneliness had already settled in for the ride. As the plane left the ground, in my mind, I saw my arms lengthen to grasp hold of the runway, as Mickey Mouse would do to bring the plane to a stop, but no such luck. Even coming to a country in Europe where many people speak English, there is still a loneliness in the everyday things of life.

As is often said, you can be lonely in a crowded room, and what makes this especially poignant I think for Irish people is the lack of people who share your sense of humour. You can crack a joke and there is silence in the room. Nothing makes you feel lonely more than having to explain a joke to new friends.

You quickly learn to shrug. What kept and still keeps me going are the voices of heaven and earth, faith and family and friends. Family and friends who call and without trying, just being their own Irish selves, reassure me there are other people out there who understand my humour and who speak my language, my real language, not just the English words but the language which is me. Today, in , I still look into the freezers with the same questions, and I still wonder how a whole nation could survive without a sense of humour.

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We lived in Ashbourne in Co Meath for several years, and one of the things I miss the most is the everyday chat - as you go about ordinary life and come into contact with neighbours and shopkeepers. I fondly remember my regular chats with Jimmy, who owned the fruit and veg shop in Ashbourne. Now there was a man who could talk! That kind of casual banter is something that I greatly miss. It is nigh-on impossible to joke in a new language until you have a good degree of fluency. I started a blog www. It has also helped me to hold onto my sense of humour.

Italy is hardly the expat dream location.

I have worked as a community worker with the Irish in London, teaching aggressive children in London, dyslexic children in France, and in international schools. I have worked with the richest and poorest, as well as in chip shops, bars, grocery shops, night clubs, building sites and farms. My London experience often had me on the verge of contacting Gaybo back in the s, to request that he tell parents and schools to prepare people for migration, especially into large urban cities like London.

They were only happy when they were on the train home every Friday night, and overjoyed when they got their civil service transfer back down home. Thousands still stream out of Dublin every weekend. People move all over the world and experience this isolation everywhere. The millions who leave rural Africa to flock to Lagos, middle America to its coastal cities, North Brazil down to Rio and Sao Paulo, million all over China, 48, a month into New Delhi: they all live with it.

Millions of them want to be back home. They are no less lonely or isolated than the Irish. I set off for Paris with the express purpose of acquiring the skill-set needed to advance at my job back home.

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Not even the pollution and overcrowding could extinguish the electricity in the Paris air, and the excitement I felt living there. Special friends and memorable experiences came my way with impromptu picnics on the banks of the Seine and scrambles through forbidden parts of the catacombs. While in Paris I fell in love, and was no longer travelling alone when I followed an offer to work in Philadelphia. It too was a great city to spend some expat years. But its social problems were hard to ignore.

Ultimately, the obligation to return to work six weeks after having a baby was enough to send me looking for a job back in Europe. Switzerland became my next stop. Basel is full of brilliant, high-functioning individuals working their asses off to remain the best and the brightest. I always felt I was failing terribly at achieving any sort of work-life balance, so once again after three years I wanted to move on.

I now live in a beautiful place near Nantes. So suddenly now, the pining for Ireland starts in earnest. For instance, in conversation, Irish people seem motivated to put the other at their ease, whether it is with self-deprecating humour or reassurances, a trait perhaps not observed as often in other countries. This delicacy in human interaction is what makes the country such a pleasant place to live. In retrospect, I am more conscious now of the experiences I sacrificed in being an expat - looming largest of all that I was not there to hold the hand of a loved one as he slipped away.

And when I think of all the Irish people I am close to who are also displaced - my sister, aunt and uncles, numerous cousins and friends - it becomes clear that emigration is still a far too common Irish story.

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A letter from those who stayed at home and made it work - that is the Irish experience I would like to read more about. Receive a weekly newsletter covering emigration issues and stories from the Irish diaspora. Irish people who have recently moved abroad have been encouraged to travel home to cast their vote in Friday's referendum on same-sex marriage. The referendum is due to take place on 22 May and voters are being asked if same-sex couples should be given the right to marry in a civil ceremony. Irish citizens living abroad are eligible to vote provided that they are still on the Irish electoral register.

Many Irish emigrants who are no longer entitled to vote have used social media campaigns to urge those who can to make their mark. Some expats who can vote are planning expensive journeys home, such is their strength of feeling on the issue. They include Mark Govern, who is originally from Tallaght in Dublin but moved to Australia last summer. Having already booked his summer holiday home in August, Mr Govern said next week's trip was specifically arranged so he could be in Ireland to witness "history in the making".

The year-old Dubliner told the BBC that as a gay man he was "very passionate" about same-sex marriage rights and that securing a yes vote was extremely important to him personally and to his native country, politically. I grew up in a liberal country," Mr Govern said. He said he believed that a 'no' vote would reinforce a mistaken "stereotype" of Irish conservatism abroad and could discourage young Irish emigrants from returning home in the future. Mr Govern said he was confident the referendum would pass and wanted to be in his home city for the result on Saturday 23 May.

He objected to the 'no' campaign repeatedly raising concerns over adoption and surrogacy by same-sex parents in the debate, describing them as "red herrings".

However, central to those who have publicly opposed same-sex marriage is the belief that a child has a birthright to both a mother and a father. Many of them have expressed concerns about the potential consequences for the future development of Irish family law. The campaign group Mother and Fathers Matter has claimed that if the referendum is passed, it will be "constitutionally impossible for the law to show any preference for a child having a mother and father in relation to adoption, surrogacy and Donor Assisted Human Reproduction DAHR ".

Yes campaigners argue that same-sex adoption and DAHR are already being dealt with separately through the wide-ranging Children and Family Relationships Bill, which, among other changes, will allow same-sex couples to jointly adopt children.